For a better life, less is more.

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The best lesson that 2020 taught was - “less is more.”

We socialized less; we bonded firmly.
We limited our parties; we stayed happier.
We spent less; we saved more.

Until the beginning of the last year, we wanted to add so many things to our lives. But life had different plans. The past year had subtracted a lot of toxic stuff from our lives. It changed our mindset from adding a car, a laptop, and a house to adding happiness, peace, and love. There was a 360-degree change in our outlook.

However, 2020 taught us that subtracting some toxic habits and mindsets can actually add meaning to our lives. …

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” - Martin Luther King Jr.

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How often do you hear complaints from your friends about their partners? If not complaints, don’t they come up to you to unload their heavy hearts?

Honestly, I had always been this complaint box, where people come up to and dump their relationship’s pain. Yesterday, while commuting in public-transit, I came across a commuter who continuously blabbered about his broken love life.

Learning from others’ pain, I‘ve realized that we are making our relationships toxic in the quest to acquire and experience everything fast.

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you can distinguish a healthy relationship from a toxic one. …

Here’s how to understand the causes of not letting go and ways of dealing with them.

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Letting go is a free feeling where we create a space in our hearts and fill it with light and love. It’s a feeling of liberation.

But we don’t find it easy to let go of the hurt so quickly. It feels like emotional quicksand. The harder we try, the more we fail.

So, why it’s so difficult to let go of things?

It is not because of our inability to let go but lack of correct understanding and deep-ingrained wrong belief systems.

Whenever we are hurt or pained, it creates a deep groove in our minds. The hurt and pain remind us of the time and energy invested in the relationships or endeavors. This irreparable loss of time and energy also prevents us from reciprocating further in life. …


Twelve steps algorithm that can solve any mental conundrum

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“Oftentimes, the most important decisions are the most difficult ones to make — for your future, and the future of the generations that come after you, hinges on the outcome of those decisions.”― J.E.B. Spredemann, Englisch on Purpose

Decisions constitute a significant part of our lives. The decisions that we make define the direction of our life, and hence whatever we do and wherever we are in our life are the results of our choices.

We all believe that failing to make the right decision at the right time is like losing a precious opportunity. But making essential decisions in a short time can be tricky. …

#4. The way they enter the room

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You don’t have to be a psychological expert in reading people’s behavior. We all have that inner power to discern that can tell us a lot about people’s personalities.

If not, we can always develop that skill.

As a child, I was always intrigued by people’s dual-faced behavior. Sometimes their actions and words did not match. I didn’t get it.

Though humans had developed a science of communicating thoughts, expressions, and feelings through speech, they often used body language to display their aversions, love, liking, hate, etc. And I wanted to learn that subtle language.

An American novelist Carol Plum-Ucci once quoted in her…


My spiritual conversations with him.

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Sitting on the edge of curiosity,
I try to focus on my thoughts,
And think —
How the things roll,
How the events unfold,
How my life unfurls,
Every day, without my control.

I often ask him,
If I ever would be able
To control my life and my destiny,
He just smiles.
And tells me one thing,
Don’t worry about the results,
Just focus on your deeds.

Each time I demand something,
He responds to me with love. …

Accomplish more by committing less.

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Is the dinner ready, Mom?

Oh yes, dear, would you mind pulling out some plates and lay them on the table?

Done! Shall I serve the food too?

Oh no! I just forget to transfer the clothes from the washer to the dryer; would you please do that for me, Darshak?

Of course, Mom.

After doing what she said, I realized that I’d spent almost fifteen to twenty minutes, and then the dinner was ready to be served.

My mom didn’t say that the dinner wasn’t ready. …

Here’s what we can do instead.

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The biggest mistake you can make in life is to waste your time. — Jerry Bruckner

Wasting time is wasting life because both once lost can’t be regained.

Time is life; life is time.

Life is the most invaluable possession that we have. We all have one life and get one chance to make it meaningful and right.

But do you always feel that you don’t have time to do what you want?

Do you feel that life is not giving you a chance to pursue your dreams?

If yes, you are not alone. …


Spiritual Secret #18

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Dear Spiritual souls,

How is the new year treating you so far?

Are external situations creating chaos inside your minds?
Did the U.S Capitol scene enrage or upset you?

I hope not.

There are plenty of different opinions among the people worldwide about almost everything. Intolerance to those ideas creates conflicts and ill feelings.

But how can we not get affected by others’ thoughts and opinions?

The answer lies in the question itself.

Thoughts and opinions are a personal choice, and no one can impose that on us. We have the power to choose what to watch, read, and listen to. …


Don’t underestimate its power.

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Who am I to teach you?
Who am I to preach
I am not here to prove a point.
I am here to express myself.
I am here to impress myself.

So, what you don’t like me.
I am not here for you.
You didn’t make my life.
Or you don’t earn for my bread.
You don’t even know anything about me.

You don’t like me telling others.
You don’t like me advising others.
Who are you to tell me what to do?
How different are you,
if you advise me. …


Darshak Rana

✦A positive-minded guy with a peaceful heart ✦ I write about Life and Spirituality to solve the riddle of WhatIsInsideMe ✦ Connect on Social Media@watisinsideme

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